Read + Write + Report
Home | Start a blog | About Orble | FAQ | Blogs | Writers | My Orble | Login

Hipnotherapy - The Couch Can Be Your Friend....

 
Interesting "Goings On" in the Wide World of Therapy

Hipnotherapy - February 2008

What's Wrong with Being Normal?

February 27th 2008 14:25
Every normal person, in fact, is only normal on the average. His ego approximates to that of the psychotic in some part or other and to a greater or lesser extent.
Sigmund Freud




The idea that there are normal and abnormal ways for people to be and to behave is a very familiar one. So also is the idea that abnormality--or deviance--is something regrettable, deplorable, and even, in some cases, punishable. Here, however, my main concern will be to consider what might be meant by the claim that a person is, in some respect, normal. There is, no doubt, an unsophisticated usage according to which what is normal is what is familiar, and the unfamiliar is feared or condemned as abnormal. But since we are all sophisticated this need not detain us. Sophisticated philosophers, though, have often proposed conceptions of human nature, conceptions that presumably have implications for human normality


Diagnostic criteria for NPD: Normal Person Disorder

A chronic feeling of normalness
A tendency to bore others easily.
A nagging sense of constantly meeting one's goal.
Lack of difficulty getting organized.
Inability to be humorous.
Knowing how to count without forgetting what number you are up to.
An inability to be creative and intuitive, no seat of pants to fly by.
Highly stimulated by lectures, speeches, dead cockroaches and other normals.
An unbroken remote control.
A To-Do list which gets done.

A chronic interest in each or any of the following for more than a week:
Job
Relationship
Schedule
Patience
Passing Grades
Sex
Normals
A methodical nature.
Affectionately known as "Bump on a log"
79
Vote
   


Embrace Failure

February 26th 2008 04:52
There is no greater stigma in American popular culture than being labeled a faliure. The expression failure has become an oft-used and enduring symbol in popular culture.


Avoiding Failure
Folks learn about failure in childhood in the following ways:

1. Children don't engage in an activity in which they fear failure. If children don't participate, they're safe from failure. Injury, illness, damaged equipment, forgotten or lost materials, apparent lack of interest or motivation, or just plain refusal to take part are common ways in which children can avoid failure and maintain their personal and social esteem.


2. Children can also avoid failure by failing in an activity, but protect themselves from the failure by having an excuse—"I would have done well, but I just didn't feel like it" or "I would have done just fine, but the teacher was totally unfair." Because their failures were not their fault, children can't be held responsible and popular culture and their parents must continue to accept and love them.


3. Many children don't have the luxury of not taking part or coming up with excuses, for example, children can't just not go to school. So another way that children can avoid failure is to get as far away from failure as possible by becoming successful. But to what extent and cost? Becoming anxious and unhappy due to unrealistic self imposed or parent imposed goals.

The Value of Failure
Failure is an inevitable—and essential—part of life. Failure can bolster the motivation to overcome the obstacles that caused the failure. It shows us what we did wrong so we can correct the problem in the future. Failure connects our actions with consequences which helps us gain ownership of our efforts. Failure teaches important life skills, such as commitment, patience, determination, decision making, and problem solving. It helps us respond positively to the frustration and disappointment that we will often experience as we pursue our goals. Failure teaches us humility and appreciation for the opportunities that we are given.

Of course, too much failure may discourage us. Success is also needed for its ability to bolster motivation, build confidence, reinforce effort, and increase enjoyment. As we pursue our life goals, we must experience a healthy balance of success and failure to gain the most from our efforts.

When we look for the easy way out, and act in ways that can hurt us then we faill.
Failure also means treating others poorly and not giving back to our families, communities, and the world as a whole. When we are selfish, uncaring, and disrespectful of the world in which we live, then we fail. We will know in their hearts that some failure is okay and in no way a negative reflection on ourselves as people. Finally, failure will ultimately enable us to achieve success, however we define it.

Remember above all failure DOES NOT define us!

107
Vote
   


Beware of Cupid's Arrow in the Workplace

February 17th 2008 04:33
About a third of U.S. workers have said they would consider having a workplace romance, a number that has steadily declined from 42 percent three years ago, according to a recent survey by recruiting and staffing company Spherion Corp.



The poll found that 30 percent were hesitant to date a co-worker for fear it would jeopardize their job security or advancement opportunities, and about a third of those who reported having an office fling said they kept it a secret. Women were more likely to keep their romances under wraps -- 35 percent compared with 25 percent of men.

Meanwhile, nearly 60 percent reported that their company does not have a policy on relationships in the workplace. About a third of U.S. workers have said they would consider having a workplace romance, a number that has steadily declined from 42 percent three years ago, according to a recent survey by recruiting and staffing company Spherion Corp.

Career Builder and Harris Polls found that 40 percent) workers say they have dated a co-worker at sometime during their careers, with 20 percent admitting to doing it more than twice, according to CareerBuilder.com's annual office romance survey of more than 6,700 workers. Close to three-in-ten (29 percent) workers said they went on to marry the person they dated at work.

Comparing age groups, workers aged 55 and older were least likely (34 percent) to say they have dated a co-worker during their careers, while 44 percent of workers aged 35-44 were the most likely to have done so.

Workers aren't just interested in dating their peers. Twenty-seven percent of workers admit they have dated someone with a higher position in their organization; female workers more so than males, at 37 percent and 20 percent, respectively. Ninety-eight percent of workers said their relationship with someone at work did nothing to progress their career.

Romance between co-workers rarely begins in the actual office, with 13 percent of workers saying their relationships began when they ran into each other outside of work. Other situations where office romances found their spark included:
-- Happy hour (11 percent)
-- At lunch (11 percent)
-- Working after-hours together (10 percent)
-- Love at first sight (10 percent)
-- Company office party (2 percent)

These points are critical, especially for those of you who are trying to advance your career in a small office environment.

Size matters
: A small to medium size office can be a potentially disastrous place to find oneself attracted to a female colleague. While falling for a co-worker is not necessarily advised in any office environment, this holds especially true in a small workplace where everyone is into everyone else’s business, both personal and work-related.

While larger offices are generally more impersonal, smaller work environments tend to create the type of closeness that can lead to the development of a romantic relationship.

The conditions are ripe for lust: When getting involved with a co-worker, chances are that you can bypass all the intricate steps that are required to attract and impress her from the beginning. You are already in direct contact with her on a daily basis, you talk about life and work, you have coffee and perhaps the occasional lunch, and it’s almost as if the early stages of the dating game have already been taken care of.

The benefits?: As with most new relationships, the real excitement comes in the early stages: the flirting, the secret emails, the smiles and sexual glances, the playful jokes and letters. These are all bonuses that will most definitely bring joy to your long, hard day at the office. Maybe you feel vitalized when you wake up in the morning and you can’t wait to see her all decked out in her office attire, complete with that cheery smile when she sees you walk in. Maybe you get to have lunch together. An otherwise boring office lunch can magically turn into an intimate lunch date complete with flirting. During private time, you will always have something to talk about when your conversation becomes stale, as you both live and breathe 40 hours of the same work space each and every week. You always have someone to confide in concerning your work-related problems. Likewise, you can be there for her when she needs to blow off some steam.


The downsides
: As with everything in life, along with the good comes the bad. The only difference in this case is that when it’s bad, it’s horrible. When things are not going your way at work, the last thing you need is added pressure stemming from tension between you and your office flame. That cold, hard glare she lets off can really burn a hole right through the back of your brain when tension arises. Even worse is when others around the office have to witness this chaos. The more private time you spend together during office hours, the more you will begin to alienate yourself from your other colleagues. As soon as trouble in corporate paradise rears its ugly head and you find yourself as the office outsider, you will have to work overtime to regain their trust and friendship. When the going gets tough, it’s difficult to avoid one another in a small office. Chances are your office space or work station is just around the corner from hers, so attempting to ignore her all week is virtually impossible. In a larger office, you may be able to pull it off.


The break-up: As with many relationships, you may find that this one is not working out. If you decide that it’s time to call it off, those 40 work hours per week might feel like an eternity in the early stages of the break-up. The beauty of breaking off a normal relationship is that you no longer have to see the other person afterwards. Obviously, the same rules don’t apply when it comes to an office fling. If you are responsible for ending it, she might seek revenge and try to make your life hell at work. On the other hand, if she ends it, you could be the bitter one and you might attempt to seek revenge. What’s worse is jealousy may take its toll when you witness her flirting with other employees, going out on lunch dates and ultimately moving on with her life. Such distractions can seriously harm your performance at work.


Make a professional decision

So there you have it. If you ever find yourself in this type of predicament, do whatever you feel is right, but let your brain weigh the pros and cons before enrolling yourself in a crash course in career chaos.

91
Vote
   


Eros: The Agony and the Ecstacy

February 14th 2008 02:44
Eros, is the Greek god of love and sexual desire (the word eros, which is found in the Iliad by Homer, is a common noun meaning sexual desire). He was also worshiped as a fertility god, believed to be a contemporary of the primeval Chaos, which makes Eros one of the oldest gods.

From the early legend of Eros it is said that he was responsible for the embraces of Uranus (Heaven or Sky) and Gaia (Earth), and from their union were born many offspring. It was also written that Eros ws the father of mankind and made it appear first into the light (Birds, by Aristophanes). Sometimes Eros was worshiped by the name Erotes (which is the plural of Eros); this personified all the attractions that evoked love and desire


[ Click here to read more ]
93
Vote
   


This is part of a letter my grandad sent to me about working on our family farm. Thought I would share it with you guys as it meant a lot to me.

February 1969


[ Click here to read more ]
92
Vote
   


76
Vote
   


Bully Prevention 101

February 3rd 2008 04:48
I was reading in Orble Blog Parenting Issues Link to blog about school violence and was reminded of my days working with a bullying prevention program. Children and adolescents who experience victimization at the hands of their peers often suffer in silence. Even when victims come forward, parents and educators are often at a loss as to how they may intervene and support the victim. Bullying is an all-too-common human activity that has existed since the beginning of recorded history and is present in most cultures. It is enacted by both boys and girls, as well as women and men. Research suggests that somewhere between 30 percent and 60 percent of American schoolchildren report being bullied.


Bullying hurts. Those who are bullied hate it. They fear it, dread it and try to avoid it. One recent survey found that 58 percent of school children claimed they stayed home from school on at least one day to avoid being bullied. Bullying is about power. A colleague of ours says, "It's all about big on little, many on few, smart on less smart, older on younger." We're sure you know this fact. At some point, you've probably been the smaller one, the younger one or had your interests and feelings unfairly damaged by someone more powerful than you


[ Click here to read more ]
70
Vote
   


More Posts
1 Posts
1 Posts
1 Posts
151 Posts dating from May 2007
Email Subscription
Receive e-mail notifications of new posts on this blog:
Moderated by Miswanderlust
Copyright © 2006 2007 2008 On Topic Media PTY LTD. All Rights Reserved. Design by Vimu.com.
On Topic Media ZPages: Sydney |  Melbourne |  Brisbane |  London |  Birmingham |  Leeds     [ Advertise ] [ Contact Us ] [ Privacy Policy ]