Guidelines for Fair Fighting
March 27th 2008 01:24
1) Fight by mutual consent: Don’t insist of a fight at a time when one of you can’t handle this type of strain. A good fight demands two ready participants.
2) Stick to the present: Don’t dredge up past mistakes and faults about which you can do nothing.
3) Stick to the subject: Limit this fight to the subject. Don’t throw every other problem into it; take them at a different time.
4) Don’t hit below the belt: In your lives together, you discover each other’s sensitive areas. Don’t throw them at each other.
5) Don’t quit; work it out: Bring the fight to a mutual conclusion. Otherwise, it will just recur again and again.
6) Don’t try to win, EVER: If one wins, the other loses and begins to build resentment about this relationship. That destroys rather than builds the relationship.
7) Respect crying: It is a valid response to how we feel, but don’t let crying sidetrack you. It is a response for men as well as women.
8) No violence: Physical violence violates all of the above rules for fighting by mutual consent.
2) Stick to the present: Don’t dredge up past mistakes and faults about which you can do nothing.
3) Stick to the subject: Limit this fight to the subject. Don’t throw every other problem into it; take them at a different time.
4) Don’t hit below the belt: In your lives together, you discover each other’s sensitive areas. Don’t throw them at each other.
5) Don’t quit; work it out: Bring the fight to a mutual conclusion. Otherwise, it will just recur again and again.
6) Don’t try to win, EVER: If one wins, the other loses and begins to build resentment about this relationship. That destroys rather than builds the relationship.
7) Respect crying: It is a valid response to how we feel, but don’t let crying sidetrack you. It is a response for men as well as women.
8) No violence: Physical violence violates all of the above rules for fighting by mutual consent.
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