Bully Prevention 101
February 3rd 2008 04:48
I was reading in Orble Blog Parenting Issues Link to blog about school violence and was reminded of my days working with a bullying prevention program. Children and adolescents who experience victimization at the hands of their peers often suffer in silence. Even when victims come forward, parents and educators are often at a loss as to how they may intervene and support the victim. Bullying is an all-too-common human activity that has existed since the beginning of recorded history and is present in most cultures. It is enacted by both boys and girls, as well as women and men. Research suggests that somewhere between 30 percent and 60 percent of American schoolchildren report being bullied.
Bullying hurts. Those who are bullied hate it. They fear it, dread it and try to avoid it. One recent survey found that 58 percent of school children claimed they stayed home from school on at least one day to avoid being bullied. Bullying is about power. A colleague of ours says, "It's all about big on little, many on few, smart on less smart, older on younger." We're sure you know this fact. At some point, you've probably been the smaller one, the younger one or had your interests and feelings unfairly damaged by someone more powerful than you.
Personality Traits of Bullies
-Need power and control
-Get satisfaction from inflicting harm to others
-View accidental encounter as a deliberate act of disrespect
-Lack empathy
-Are victims themselves (by other peers or family members)
-Be victims of parental neglect, have overly strict or highly indulgent parents
Characteristics of Male Bullying
-Boys bully both boys and girls
-Boys are more often the perpetrators and victims of direct bullying
-Are often oppositional and defiant with adults
Characteristics of Female Bullying
-Girls bully predominately other girls
-Girls bully through exclusion
-Girls bully through manipulation
Tips for Helping a Child who is Bullied
-Listen to what the child has to say
-Avoid victim blaming
-Teach assertive communication
-Help the child identify social supports
-Teach body language observation skills
Tips for Helping a Child who Bullies Others
-Take every bullying incident seriously
-Supervise your child’s interactions closely
-Do not tolerate behavior that hurts others
-Teach the child ways to recognize internal signals
-Use real-life situations to practice alternatives to bullying
-Teach the child positive ways to get what he or she wants
-Praise and reward positive interactions
-Communicate your concerns about supervision, monitoring and consequences for bullying to your children's school.
-Help your children build a social safety network and encourage them to travel via the buddy system.
-Encourage your school to develop anti-bullying social norms for children before middle school; this includes teaching about the difference between tattling and telling.
-Help your child's school use a clear, effective limit-setting system for bullies; bullies need to know exactly what consequences they will suffer if they engage in bullying behavior.
-Teach your children anti-bullying strategies. These might include methods for getting the bully on their side, assertiveness skills, humor and conflict-management skills.
-Avoid bullying the bully or your own children. One of the ways children learn to be bullies or victims is through their own family experiences.
Bullying hurts. Those who are bullied hate it. They fear it, dread it and try to avoid it. One recent survey found that 58 percent of school children claimed they stayed home from school on at least one day to avoid being bullied. Bullying is about power. A colleague of ours says, "It's all about big on little, many on few, smart on less smart, older on younger." We're sure you know this fact. At some point, you've probably been the smaller one, the younger one or had your interests and feelings unfairly damaged by someone more powerful than you.
Personality Traits of Bullies
-Need power and control
-Get satisfaction from inflicting harm to others
-View accidental encounter as a deliberate act of disrespect
-Are victims themselves (by other peers or family members)
-Be victims of parental neglect, have overly strict or highly indulgent parents
Characteristics of Male Bullying
-Boys bully both boys and girls
-Boys are more often the perpetrators and victims of direct bullying
-Are often oppositional and defiant with adults
Characteristics of Female Bullying
-Girls bully predominately other girls
-Girls bully through exclusion
-Girls bully through manipulation
Tips for Helping a Child who is Bullied
-Listen to what the child has to say
-Avoid victim blaming
-Teach assertive communication
-Help the child identify social supports
-Teach body language observation skills
Tips for Helping a Child who Bullies Others
-Take every bullying incident seriously
-Supervise your child’s interactions closely
-Do not tolerate behavior that hurts others
-Teach the child ways to recognize internal signals
-Use real-life situations to practice alternatives to bullying
-Teach the child positive ways to get what he or she wants
-Praise and reward positive interactions
-Communicate your concerns about supervision, monitoring and consequences for bullying to your children's school.
-Help your children build a social safety network and encourage them to travel via the buddy system.
-Encourage your school to develop anti-bullying social norms for children before middle school; this includes teaching about the difference between tattling and telling.
-Help your child's school use a clear, effective limit-setting system for bullies; bullies need to know exactly what consequences they will suffer if they engage in bullying behavior.
-Teach your children anti-bullying strategies. These might include methods for getting the bully on their side, assertiveness skills, humor and conflict-management skills.
-Avoid bullying the bully or your own children. One of the ways children learn to be bullies or victims is through their own family experiences.
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I am so glad that you enjoyed it and find it helpful. Be well ladies!
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