Characteristics of the Love Addict
September 11th 2007 04:54
Are you or someone you love a love addict? Take this quiz and see for yourself.
1. Love addicts assign a disproportionate among to time, attention, and “value above themselves” to the person to whom they are addicted, and this focus often has an obsessive quality about it.
2. Love addicts have unrealistic expectations for unconditional positive regard from the other person in the relationship.
3. Love addicts neglect to care for or value themselves while they’re in the relationship.
4. Love addicts have a built in sense of helplessness.
5. Love addicts rate their partner as superior to themselves.
6. Love addicts have a fear of abandonment and will tolerate almost anything to avoid being left.
7. Love addicts have serious doubts about their self worth.
8. Love addicts often have a fantasy about a super nurturing partner.
9. Love addicts often perceive themselves as defectives.
10. Love addicts often believe that love is boundary-free
11. Love addicts compartmentalize relationships from the other areas of their lives
12. Love addicts mistake intensity for intimacy (drama driven relationships)
13. Love addicts seek to avoid rejection and abandonment at any cost.
14. Love addicts are afraid to trust anyone in a relationship
15. Love addicts sometimes possess an inner rage over lack of nurturing by one or both parents and may have been abandoned by one or more parents early in life.
16. Love addicts perceive attraction, attachment, and sex as basic human needs, on a par with food and water
17. Love addicts possess a sense of worthlessness without a relationship or partner.
18. Love addicts feel that a relationship makes one whole, or more of a man or woman.
19. Love addicts posses escalating tolerance for high-risk behavior
20. Love addicts possess an intense need to control others, circumstances.
21. Love addicts oftentimes possess an insatiable appetite in area of difficulty (sex, love, or attachment).
22. Love addicts often use others, sex & relationships to alter mood or relieve emotional pain.
23. Love addicts continually question of values and lifestyle
24. Love addicts are driven, desperate, and frantic.
25. Love addicts have a tendency to refuse to acknowledge the existence of problem
26. Love addicts often confuse sexual attraction with love.
27. Love addicts define out-of – control behavior as normal
28. Love addicts define “wants” as “needs.”
29. Love addicts tend to leave a relationship when it becomes “real”.
30. Love addicts tend to have an inability to be without a relationship.
31. Love addicts attempts to replace lost relationships with a new one immediately.
1. Love addicts assign a disproportionate among to time, attention, and “value above themselves” to the person to whom they are addicted, and this focus often has an obsessive quality about it.
3. Love addicts neglect to care for or value themselves while they’re in the relationship.
4. Love addicts have a built in sense of helplessness.
5. Love addicts rate their partner as superior to themselves.
6. Love addicts have a fear of abandonment and will tolerate almost anything to avoid being left.
7. Love addicts have serious doubts about their self worth.
8. Love addicts often have a fantasy about a super nurturing partner.
9. Love addicts often perceive themselves as defectives.
10. Love addicts often believe that love is boundary-free
11. Love addicts compartmentalize relationships from the other areas of their lives
12. Love addicts mistake intensity for intimacy (drama driven relationships)
13. Love addicts seek to avoid rejection and abandonment at any cost.
14. Love addicts are afraid to trust anyone in a relationship
15. Love addicts sometimes possess an inner rage over lack of nurturing by one or both parents and may have been abandoned by one or more parents early in life.
17. Love addicts possess a sense of worthlessness without a relationship or partner.
18. Love addicts feel that a relationship makes one whole, or more of a man or woman.
19. Love addicts posses escalating tolerance for high-risk behavior
20. Love addicts possess an intense need to control others, circumstances.
21. Love addicts oftentimes possess an insatiable appetite in area of difficulty (sex, love, or attachment).
22. Love addicts often use others, sex & relationships to alter mood or relieve emotional pain.
23. Love addicts continually question of values and lifestyle
24. Love addicts are driven, desperate, and frantic.
25. Love addicts have a tendency to refuse to acknowledge the existence of problem
26. Love addicts often confuse sexual attraction with love.
27. Love addicts define out-of – control behavior as normal
28. Love addicts define “wants” as “needs.”
29. Love addicts tend to leave a relationship when it becomes “real”.
30. Love addicts tend to have an inability to be without a relationship.
31. Love addicts attempts to replace lost relationships with a new one immediately.
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Comment by JoH
Comment by Ash
Flashes of memories
I reckon I was a love addict once... then I found someone who cured my addiction! Unlike the celebrities I learnt from my time in rehab
Ash
Comment by Mrs M
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Love & stuff
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Comment by katyzzz
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I don't think I am a love addict, although I'd like a male friend after all of these years. Too many other things happening put any thoughts of love on the back burner.
I was obsessed with someone for a while, but that disappeared all too quickly when I had some serious problems to contend with.
He was not worth the trouble and the rose coloured glasses were on for far too long. I can't see myself ever being so foolish again.
katyzzz
Comment by Miswanderlust
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I would tend to agree, however I believe that with education anyone can have a healthy relationship. Thanks so much for visiting, reading, and commenting. I will take a look at your place! Thanks for stopping by.
Mis
Comment by Miswanderlust
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I think in our younger days, many of us were a little "over the top" in a relationship.
Mis
Comment by Miswanderlust
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I hope it is very very little :0)
Mis
Comment by Miswanderlust
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I think that living and learning makes believers out of us. I notice that as I get older I get pickier and my BS meter is highly calibrated.
Mis
Comment by KylieW
Celebrity Obsession
I have a couple of friedns who fit into this category!
Comment by Miswanderlust
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You are so right... too much love addict=Zsa Zsa Gabor or Liz Taylor (ha!) (Wow these references sooooo old school)
Mis