Correcting a Child in a Positive Way
July 15th 2007 04:12
Communication Cues •
You can choose to use your firm, fair, kind or friendly words, not your disrespectful, unkind, or ugly words.
I understand, right now you are feeling mad. What can you do with these feelings?
You have a choice: Talk out your feelings or go to time out and get your mads under control. (Somehow the use of the words "mads" makes angry feelings acceptable to children.)
Thanks for catching yourself when you felt like hitting. Good choice! What do you do now?
Do yourself a favor. Look at what you are doing right now. Do you like what's happening? What would be a better choice?
Give choices and ask the child to see the situation from a different perspective.
You can go cool down at the back of the room or stay right here. What's your choice?
When you are quieter and back to yourself again, we can talk.
Look at the expression on ___'s face. How do you think he feels inside? Did you ever feel that way? Tell me about it.
I see that you are feeling angry, sometimes I get mad myself. Then I tell myself, "It s okay to be mad if you are firm and fair about it."
Ask the child to own his own behavior and correct his error.
What did you do to get yourself in trouble? What would be a better choice to make?
You can figure out what you did wrong and do it right next time! Let's figure out some choices. Put yourself in ____'s shoes. How do you think he felt when you teased him?
Are you being part of the problem or part of the solution right now? How could you change that? We can feel good inside when we go for solutions.
You are the kind of kid who can own up to what you did and take care of your own bad feelings.
You can choose to use your firm, fair, kind or friendly words, not your disrespectful, unkind, or ugly words.
I understand, right now you are feeling mad. What can you do with these feelings?
You have a choice: Talk out your feelings or go to time out and get your mads under control. (Somehow the use of the words "mads" makes angry feelings acceptable to children.)
Thanks for catching yourself when you felt like hitting. Good choice! What do you do now?
Do yourself a favor. Look at what you are doing right now. Do you like what's happening? What would be a better choice?
Give choices and ask the child to see the situation from a different perspective.
You can go cool down at the back of the room or stay right here. What's your choice?
When you are quieter and back to yourself again, we can talk.
Look at the expression on ___'s face. How do you think he feels inside? Did you ever feel that way? Tell me about it.
I see that you are feeling angry, sometimes I get mad myself. Then I tell myself, "It s okay to be mad if you are firm and fair about it."
Ask the child to own his own behavior and correct his error.
What did you do to get yourself in trouble? What would be a better choice to make?
You can figure out what you did wrong and do it right next time! Let's figure out some choices. Put yourself in ____'s shoes. How do you think he felt when you teased him?
Are you being part of the problem or part of the solution right now? How could you change that? We can feel good inside when we go for solutions.
You are the kind of kid who can own up to what you did and take care of your own bad feelings.
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