Creating erotic couple scenarios
September 2nd 2007 06:45
One of the most fascinating aspects of sexuality is the differences in what people find erotic. When exploring turn-ons, you do not have to prove anything to yourself, your spouse, or anyone else. Request and share scenarios and techniques that heighten your desire and arousal.
From a smorgasbord of erotic turn-ons, one partner chooses what he or she would like to try or designs something of his own. Erotic couple scenarios include slow, mutual kissing and touching, followed by rapid, intense intercourse; making love while watching a favorite R-rated video; being sexual in the shower or right after, reading a sexual fantasy aloud or playing out the fantasy; using a favorite lotion to heighten erotic sensations as the partners stimulate each other to orgasm; a quick, intense intercourse followed by afterplay, where he gives her as many orgasms as she wants; having intercourse standing up or with her sitting on the bed and him kneeling; and missing manual and oral sex until both partners are highly aroused, with intercourse in the woman-on-top position, where he engages in manual clitoral stimulation and she strokes her breasts. The man creates scenarios that are personally inviting and a turn-on. The woman is open to his requests and desires. They are share turn-ons that heighten eroticism and arousal.
The other partner designs her creative erotic scenario. This is a sharing, not a competition. She can explore external turn-ons and use milieu and special techniques to heighten eroticism. Each partner can veto anything he or she finds negative, but is encouraged to be open and experimental. Examples include being sexual in front of a mirror and enjoying visual feedback; watching an erotic or X-rated video; being sexual in the guest room, living room, or family room; using vibrator stimulation; being sexual on a deserted beach; sex in a shower or Jacuzzi; using play aids (a feather, silk sheets, mittens); being sexual in the back seat of the car in remembrance of adolescence; using “toys” like loosely tied ropes or a paddle for spanking; being sexual at a bed-and-breakfast, upscale hotel, or funky inn, lighting a scented candle and putting on their favorite music; and being sexual under the stars during a camping trip.
Whether creating scenarios individually or mutually, partners should be open to their partner's’ feelings and requests. They should not set artificial barriers between sex play and intercourse. They can experiment with positions, multiple stimulation, expressing feelings – and enjoy creative, flowing, erotic sexuality. Creative sexuality does not end with orgasm. Partners can stay connected and enjoy afterplay.
Intimacy and eroticism can be successfully integrated. Eroticism build anticipation and desire.
From a smorgasbord of erotic turn-ons, one partner chooses what he or she would like to try or designs something of his own. Erotic couple scenarios include slow, mutual kissing and touching, followed by rapid, intense intercourse; making love while watching a favorite R-rated video; being sexual in the shower or right after, reading a sexual fantasy aloud or playing out the fantasy; using a favorite lotion to heighten erotic sensations as the partners stimulate each other to orgasm; a quick, intense intercourse followed by afterplay, where he gives her as many orgasms as she wants; having intercourse standing up or with her sitting on the bed and him kneeling; and missing manual and oral sex until both partners are highly aroused, with intercourse in the woman-on-top position, where he engages in manual clitoral stimulation and she strokes her breasts. The man creates scenarios that are personally inviting and a turn-on. The woman is open to his requests and desires. They are share turn-ons that heighten eroticism and arousal.
The other partner designs her creative erotic scenario. This is a sharing, not a competition. She can explore external turn-ons and use milieu and special techniques to heighten eroticism. Each partner can veto anything he or she finds negative, but is encouraged to be open and experimental. Examples include being sexual in front of a mirror and enjoying visual feedback; watching an erotic or X-rated video; being sexual in the guest room, living room, or family room; using vibrator stimulation; being sexual on a deserted beach; sex in a shower or Jacuzzi; using play aids (a feather, silk sheets, mittens); being sexual in the back seat of the car in remembrance of adolescence; using “toys” like loosely tied ropes or a paddle for spanking; being sexual at a bed-and-breakfast, upscale hotel, or funky inn, lighting a scented candle and putting on their favorite music; and being sexual under the stars during a camping trip.
Whether creating scenarios individually or mutually, partners should be open to their partner's’ feelings and requests. They should not set artificial barriers between sex play and intercourse. They can experiment with positions, multiple stimulation, expressing feelings – and enjoy creative, flowing, erotic sexuality. Creative sexuality does not end with orgasm. Partners can stay connected and enjoy afterplay.
Intimacy and eroticism can be successfully integrated. Eroticism build anticipation and desire.
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