Fatherhood Project: Part 2 -Fathers and Daughters
May 27th 2008 04:31
When I ask daughters why they don't know their fathers as well as they know their mothers or why they don't share as much with their fathers most say: "Because he's man, he doesn't want to talk about serious or personal things with me. There's a fable about a little girl who asks, "How can Tarzan have been so smart, so strong, and so magnificent that without help from anyone at all he defeated every one of the jungle animals, including the mighty lions." The listener replied, "Child, you'll get a different story if the lion learns to talk." In the same way, you need to learn to speak directly to your father to get his feelings and his views of things.
Especially since half of our fathers die before we reach the age of fifty, it is time to start asking your "lion" more personal questions like these: (1)Who was your favorite relative and why? (2) What are some of your favorite childhood memories? (3) What did you get too little of and too much of from your father? (4) Other than relatives, who had the greatest influence on you as a child and as a teenager? (5) If you had a motto, what would it be? (6) What would bring you the greatest joy during the next few years? (7) What is the best and the worst advice a friend ever gave you? (8) How have your spiritual beliefs changed over time and who has influenced you the most? (9) If you could have any two spiritual questions answered, what would they be? (10)What are three of the best and three of the worst decisions you've ever made? (11) What are some lessons you had to learn the hard way? (12) What are some of the most important things you've learned about love and marriage? (13) How did your relationship with your dad influence the kind of parent you have been? (14) What was the best gift and best compliment I ever gave you? (15) How has our relationship changed over the years?
| 50 |
| Vote |
Shared on
Subscribe to this blog
Comment by Mrs M
Mum's Word
Good questions. I really don't think I could have this conversation with my dad because he really is shut off from us. What I have learned about my father has come from his brother and cousins who grew up with him because my dad is not the sharing kind.
I know he is the thinking kind but he will never share his deepest darkest thoughts.
I'll save this post for my kids to ask Mr M.
Love & stuff
Mrs M
Comment by Miswanderlust
Killer Beats
Ramble On
Hipnotherapy
Oh please do. With my father aging and in bad health, I have begun asking him these questions as a legacy for me, my sister, and his grandchildren! Some of his answers have been very surprising!
Mis