Sure Fire Ways to Encourage “Parent Deaf” Children
July 16th 2007 23:47
Labeling: First of all, it is disrespectful of your adult child’s rights. This is the quickest way to teaching your child to be “parent deaf.”
Generalizing: This means using words like “always” and “never.” Reality check this one. It undermines your student’s independence
Blaming/Judging: This is an excellent way to destroy your relationship with your child. Even when people have made a mistake, the usually know it, and do not like to have it rubbed in their face. Blaming is very likely to cause people to react defensively, and that shuts down communication.
Nagging: This is a major turn off for most students. These tactics will not make people change their behavior.
Demanding: There are two answers to every question. Demandingness invites defensiveness. Demandingness are brings out the petulant child in others.
Yelling: When we use this type of communication, it is likely that we will reap what we sow.
Hitting: Slapping or hitting children of any age is humiliating and can end in injury for the parent
Moralizing: Should’ve, could’ve, or would’ve is condescending. Stay in the land of what is and what is not. Also remember that there is no time machine that can redo or undo what has occurred.
Interrupting This may be the thing that destroys communication the fastest. When we are interrupted, we become frustrated and shut down. If we are the interrupter we are saying that we are more important that others
Sarcasm: this communication style is simply thinly veiled anger and diminishes the listener.
Awfulizing: No one listens to a “Chicken Little” or A boy who cries wolf
Reduce the “Why questions” These questions are inherently judgmental and come off sounding critical even if you are genuinely curious and concerned.
Question Carefully: Do not ask a question that you know the answer to. You invite a lie. Don’t ask a question that you do not want the answer to. You might get one.
Reduce the Expert opinions: Stops your child from investigating alternatives
And forces them to accept or reject you!
Reduce the proselytizing: Save it for Your preacher
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Saving up for the preacher.
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Thanks for the compliment. Thanks for visiting, reading, and commenting! I will stop by your place!
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